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Whatever They Think of You...They're Right

Unpopular opinion, right?

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Let's take it down a notch, shall we?

I'm not saying this in a 'if that person thinks you're evil incarnate, then that's exactly what you are!' type of way.

But take a second and think about a person you' than fond of. If you're human, you have one of these and it shouldn't be too hard to conjure up an image of this person in your mind, no matter how much you may not want to.

I want you to go back in time and really dig into the memory of why you've decided you'd rather not associate with this person. Ever.

Chances are, if you have a sour taste in your mouth over something this person did to you, said to you, about you, whatever, then someone else in the world feels the same way about you.

Ack. That doesn't feel great, does it?

See, we all perceive the world in our own unique way. Have you ever loved a movie, a band, or a book in such a passionate way that you wanted to declare it from the rooftops?(Perhaps not in a literal sense)

But when you talk about it with someone else, they scrunch up their nose and share all the reasons why they find that same movie, band, or book to be the most disgusting, offensive piece of garbage they've ever wasted their time on...what the heck is that about?

The same reason why you're really good at Math and that other person was an English whiz.

We ALL see and experience things differently.

That means when you are turned off by another person, it's simply because you're perceiving them differently than someone else might be.

That also means that when someone thinks negatively of you, they're not wrong. It's how they perceive you, and guess what?

It has nothing to do with you.

The sooner we realize that other people's opinions of us are not our business, the sooner we can move forward without concern. There will always be someone out there who does not like you. And that's okay. In fact, if someone doesn't like you, that just means you're living in your truth and your truth is triggering to those who aren't in alignment with you.

Why would you want those people in your circle anyway?

The truth is, you wouldn't. The ones who are meant for you will always encourage and lift you. You are not everyone's cup of tea, and if you think you should be, then perhaps reconsider the people you are averse to. If you are able to find reasons why your opinion of them might be wrong, then congratulations: you just leveled up.

We all walk our own paths at our own pace and there is nothing wrong with where you or anyone else may be at this point.

So the next time you find yourself wondering what you did to offend someone, or trying to get them to change their mind about you, remind yourself that it has nothing to do with you. It's not your business.

Let's say it a little louder for the people in the back:

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Get on with your bad self and find comfort in knowing that you have your people and you'll never have to go out of your way to please them in order to get them to 'like' you.

They just do. Because you're awesome. I know that, and so do you.


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