I have to say, my first 'official' post could not have come at a better time.
In case you've been hunkered down underground, I'll do a quick catch-up: the world is scary. Terrifying, even, with this Corona Virus pandemic.
A lot of us are quarantined in our homes, homeschooling our children, desperately trying to adjust to a work-from-home atmosphere. Some of us are fearing job loss and financial insecurity. None of us truly understand what is happening.
It doesn't matter if you believe this is serious or not. It's still happening.
We are all affected.
And the one question I've been mentally asking everyone is, 'Do you love the person you're quarantined with?'
This is our defining moment.
This is not a simple question. Immediately, you wonder if you love your partner, or whatever type of family you're living with.
But what about yourself?
DO YOU LOVE YOURSELF?
I'll be the first one to admit that loving yourself is not easy. In fact, it takes years, lifetimes, even, to know how to fully be content with the person you are. But it can be done, and it is worth it.
What if you're stuck at home all by yourself for two solid weeks? No social calls, no retail therapy, no outside distractions.
Can you do it? Without losing your cool, I mean. Can you wake up each morning in the silence? Make yourself a healthy breakfast to boost your immune system? Take steps to ensure you're at your healthiest during this terrifying outbreak? Keep yourself entertained?
What if you lost your internet connection? Your cable goes out. Your DVD player craps out on you.
What would happen if you had to rely solely on the inner workings of your mind to get you through this?
Could you do it?
Not many people can, and it's okay if you think you'd go crazy all by yourself in your own head.
But the thing is, you SHOULD be okay with being all alone.
Because someday, you WILL be alone. Maybe you won't expect it when it happens. Maybe it will happen as a result of a series of events that lead up to that time of solitude.
Regardless of when or how, just know that one day, you will not have anyone to rely on besides yourself, and you will need to figure out how to get through.
You better start learning to love being alone with yourself now.
And what better time than right now? We are currently faced with an unprecedented time in our lives. YES, having children to entertain makes the whole 'discovering yourself' thing a little bit more difficult, but not impossible.
Children learn by example, and if they see you taking the steps to care about yourself, they will follow suit.
If your job is considered 'essential' during this pandemic, then guess what? You might have to leave for work each morning, but I'm willing to bet that your thoughts are no longer centered around the mundane. You're probably driving to work imagining this new world we live in. The 'what ifs' and 'how comes'.
Are you pleased with the thoughts that are pressing in on your mind?
If you're not, perhaps this is the sign you've been waiting for.
Imagine this is the last day of your life. Who surrounds you? Were you a present parent? A loving spouse? A true friend? Whose life would have been affected by your existence? Who will be affected by your loss?
If you're spending each day 'just getting through', then maybe this post is for you. Maybe you have some living to do. Some choices to make.
What are you going to do about it?
Truth be told, your existence means everything to someone. Your loss would be monumental to someone.
So if you're thinking that what you do in your life doesn't have an effect, think again.
I'm here because someone very important to me kept telling me that I had a story to tell. I knew he was right, but I didn't know what my story was until 'all of a sudden'.
I'm here for you. I'm here to tell you that your thoughts and actions actually do define you. What you do with them is everything.
If you're not happy with the person you're quarantined with, this is where you begin. It's time to look deep inside and rewire the person you thought you needed to be in order to live your soul's true calling. It's time to stop listening to everyone else. It's time to stop existing.
It's time to be you.
You're here because you know you're meant for more.
Enjoy your ride!